Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Part 3 of 5: Ep 7
- Mizzy Bender
- Mar 24
- 3 min read
Mindful Mizzy
March 24, 2025
Is it Really Just the Single Guys In the Swingers Lifestyle?
On today's episode (part of 5) of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that single guys in the swingers lifestyle get such a bad wrap. But why? I did some research by posting the question of .. What are some things single men in the lifestyle do, that just irks you so much. The answers that came back really can apply to everyone, not just single men. I thought it would be a great exercise to talk about each entry one by one, really understanding the depth of it thought.
The specific talking points for today's show are:
Putting effort into breaking up couples or pursuing relationships within your group to play games.
The guys are like “I’m single but “….. no buts!!! You’re either on your own or you’re not. Period
Come up and try to join in or start touching without asking.
Well, I'm single (divorced), and have been in the lifestyle for about 9 years. I won't go to "events" until I find someone who will come with me. I won't go as a single guy...It's just not the same.
Ask to join in when I am doing a scene.
I've been on both sides of this coin. When I was with a partner (GF, FWB etc) all was well, met some great folks and had some memorable play time, however, when I found myself without one, it got weird. With some, I was still the same me I always was, just single but to others, it was like I was a walking STD, just waiting to spread disease and automatically deemed to be a pervert just looking to cause trouble, had no business being around some of the very same people I was when I had a woman in my life and was not given the time of day. To be fair, there are some guys who are overly aggressive and give a bad name and paint an unfair picture, as most single guys "get it" and respect others. TBH, I think we all can agree at least that a MMF threesome is still quite popular. My advice has always been, have no expectations and you won't be disappointed. This will always be a bone of contention though. Just the 2 cents of a currently single guy. 🙂
As a single guy in the LS something i hate the most is those that try to hit anything that moves at the clubs without even good conversations it's the simple reason i hate going to event alone i don't want to be counted in to them i go if i have a partner or have talk to a single lady or couple and we gonna meet at the event there is always that little group that wait in the dark corners to try attack when couples are playing in open areas, they give us bad reputation
Not all single guys but to me most of them. they are a leech of our ls. They don't really produce anything to the ls just feed off it.
Men who don't take "no, thank you" as an answer or send their girl to ask even though both are looking to play!
Thank you to all that contributed your thoughts, making this community the incredible one that it is!
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Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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