Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Ep 8: Part 4 of 5
- Mizzy Bender
- Mar 31
- 3 min read
Updated: 1 day ago
Mindful Mizzy
March 31, 2025
Is it Really Just the Single Guys in the Swingers Lifestyle? Ep 8: Part 4 of 5
On today's episode of Mornings with Mizzy Podcast, we will be discussing Is it Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that single guys in the swingers lifestyle get such a bad wrap. But why? I did some research by posting the question of .. What are some things single men in the swingers lifestyle do, that just irks you so much. The answers that came back really can apply to everyone, not just single men. I thought it would be a great exercise to talk about each entry one by one, really understanding the depth of it thought.
The specific talking points for today's show are:
Make plans after plenty of chat and planning and are a no show.
Thinking they are God's gift to the swinging community…
Email non stop and do not read our preferences
Hang out by the women’s bathroom at closing time
Are pushy, persistent, and can't take a hint. Yeah that's 3 things but they are equally annoying
For us it is not just single men, but couples as well. but to separate them, single men at least where we have been seem to think that just because we are in the lifestyle she is down to have sex with everyone. This also goes with couples, as we have had couples reach out to us who obviously did not read our profiles as to what we are looking for and wanting to get together for play. While we do enjoy a good encounter with others, we have been in and around this long enough to know what we want and we know how to attract the couples we are interested in. Over the years it has gotten worse where men think that going to a lifestyle party is an easy score as everyone there is DTF everyone else. Over the years we have met some of the nicest and well mannered single men, and while they are not her choice ( her choice not mine, I would love to see her play with more), she has played with a few who treat her like a lady and not a quick score.
Unfortunately if there are single guys like these examples , the host didn’t do a good job of vetting them. That’s why they are there. I’m not saying that single guys can’t be annoying because yes there are a shit ton of them.
I can’t wait to see the post about annoying single women.
Talking to my lady when I step away or just ignoring me like I’m not there. Jumping into her dms to try and play while keeping me out of the loop.
Tbh. Single men don't bother me nearly as much as the fake people, the cliques, the abuser defenders etc.
People will believe the lies of a unicorn simply for being "fun" --- and they will blacklist innocent people but will turn a blind eye to abuse if the person is hot enough.
I've seen it happen. For as much as people talk about it being ethical i have seen more drama in the LS than any other community I've been in in my life
Thank you to all that contributed your thoughts, making this community the incredible one that it is!
Mizzy Bender Takes on Swingers Lifestyle Eduction Until next time, I will talk to you super soon.
Xoxo,
Mizzy
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Background: Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 41 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers / Adult Lifestyle community. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains traveling the East Coast putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has since migrated into a traveling pop up boutique at swingers / alternative lifestyle events across the US.
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